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Is dating after divorce a challenge? Well, it might seem like a daunting task, given the amount of hurt feelings, diminished confidence, and all sorts of relationship doubts you have.  But a divorce is not an end to the world, right? So dating after divorce is a new start to life. Who knows you might end up with someone who is made just for you?


Dating after Divorce Tips

Wait for the dating game


It is not the best time to jump into dating right away after a divorce. It is better to come in the right frame of mind in order to find a new dating partner. Remember, your mind could be full of anger and frustration at this time, especially if your partner cheated on you. You are hurt so give yourself some time before stepping up the dating game. This should allow you enough time to forget the hurt and frustration so the same feelings of doubt or jealously do not find a place in your new relationship.


Keep an eye out for someone special


When you feel that you have healed from the pain and frustration of divorce, you may start looking for a new dating partner. However, it is best to talk to the new date about your feelings of insecurity and mistrust that your previous relationship has left you with. This will ensure that they understand your emotions and keep things honest and transparent.


Identify what you need


Dating after divorce becomes easier when you identify the things you expect in your next partner to make the relationship feel fulfilled. Work on the pain points in your failed relationship and make sure the things do not repeat.

It all begins with prioritizing what you can and cannot live without. Make it clear before beginning with a new relationship. This will ensure that you get exactly what you are looking for.


Don’t sacrifice


The need to step out of your comfort zone cannot be overstressed. You ought to stay true to yourself. Dating after divorce should not be a challenge if you know how to reconnect with yourself. When dating post-divorce, do not define yourself purely on the basis of your new relationship. You want to focus on who you are and date someone only if they accept you as who you are.


Be transparent


One of the golden rules of dating after divorce is to stay transparent and honest in your new relationship. When you are comfortable interacting with the person you are dating, honestly speak about everything. Do not hesitate to go into long conversations once you are comfortable with them. Share your life goals and expectations from the relationship if the other person looks compatible. Don’t shy away from asking them about their life goals. How does the other person reacts and responds? Can you still see potential? If so, both of you can decide to move forward together.


Trust your gut


You deserve a second chance, right. But you want to make sure you do not end up with a person who does not make a good match. So forget them and do not commit to this relationship. Trust your instincts when you start dating after divorce and make a decision based on your gut feeling.

Rav


Come winters, and it’s time to feel a little extra cozy, right? But 2020 sucks, thanks to the coronavirus pandemic that has wreaked havoc all around to the extent that a majority of us have been struck inside the confines of our homes. Perhaps social distancing ensures that we stay indoors most of the time. But does that mean your dating life should suffer too? Of course, not! Here are some amazing winter date ideas 2020 to spice it up through the holidays.


Stargazing is fun

Perhaps it is time to become a child again. Gaze at the moonlight and the twinkling starts. You don’t need to go out too far for such a splendid sight. It is best viewed from your own terrace.  Star gazing is a fun activity that both of you would love. Doesn’t the idea of a planetarium show sound relaxing and romantic? This way you can spend quality time together. No doubt, it should bring both of you closer.


Make a gingerbread house

Add to the fun of making your gingerbread house along with your sweetie. What should add to some extra fun is taking up a gingerbread design that challenges your skills and requires more time. When you both practice together on a piece of art or challenge each other to make their own, you are in for some quality time for the holidays. Doesn’t that sound like an excellent winter date idea 2020?


A virtual workout is therapeutic

Think beyond the cocktails and bring in some fitness goals. You could do virtual yoga together or push-ups. When you decide to take up a virtual workout challenge with your special someone, it becomes even more interesting. Research shows that when two people mimic each other, they are more attuned to their partner.


Go for the adrenaline pumping indoor rock climbing

Can’t think of any winter date ideas for COVID times? Well, jump start your relationship with an activity that pumps up your adrenaline. Sharing a physical challenging activity can work like magical bond for your relationship. Rock climbing is one such activity to bring you both together.


If you aren’t too adventurous, go for an indoor activity, such as ping pong. Even research finds that the release of endorphins when two people work out together brings both closer. After the sporting fun, it’s time to deepen the date with some fond memories of the day.


Go camping in the backyard

When winter date ideas 2020 look a little too difficult to try, think of the open outdoor space in your yard. You do not need to go too far for a camping space elsewhere. Recreate the atmosphere in the backyard or terrace with outdoor string lights, soft blankets, a fire pit, and hot chocolate and that’s it.  You'll be all set for some romantic date night experience at home. add to the experience with some extra fun playing card games or counting the stars or just looking for the planet Venus. You will love every bit of this experience.


Volunteer together

While you are looking for a classy winter date idea in COVID times, the holiday season is an invitation to get involved with community efforts. When you both volunteer together for a cause you care for, that would bring you closer to each other.


Giving back to others with someone by your side who shares the same community spirit of giving back can promote connectedness.


Create a spa at home

Spoil each other with a spa-like environment at home with candles lit all around. Pick an aromatherapy oil for massage. Keep a robe ready with the scent of rose or lavender. Soak in aromatic warm water along with your sweetie for an amazing winter date 2020.


The stress of coronavirus pandemic can’t ruin your winter date ideas. Enjoy the company of your beloved with these awesome winter date ideas for coronavirus and make memories.

Rav




First dates can make or mar your relationship with your potential boyfriend or girlfriend. Making a small talk can work against you and signal the end of the relationship before it could begin. If you ask the wrong questions, you may set a bad impression and lose the opportunity to impress. So what are the questions to avoid on a first date?


Don’t Ask These Questions on A First Date

 

Why are you single?

For some, there is nothing wrong in being single. If you ask your date why they are still single, you might be sending wrong signals that you view being single as wrong. Or they might think that you are mocking at them for being single. There could be many reasons why they have remained a single. Never ask this at least on the first date.


Where do you see us going?

Well, this is still the first time you are together and asking them about their opinion as to where they see the relationship going might make you look desperate. This might annoy them. give both of you a chance to decide this later. It may not be the right time to ask this question.


Are you seeing someone else?

The first date is too soon to ask whether they are in a relationship still. When you ask this question, they might misinterpret it differently. For example, are you having sex with someone? Or how many people have you slept with?


Don’t you think the first date is too soon to ask this type of personal question? It sounds invasive and might create the impression that you are concerned only about virginity and sex.


That looks pricey, how much did it cost anyway?

This is one question not to ask on first date. If you ask someone you have never met before the cost of a watch, a handbag, an apartment that they own, they might see you as concerned with money. Of course, feel free to compliment them for owning such a beautiful piece but refrain from qualifying it with a price.

Additionally, it is wrong to ask them about their income at this stage. Their finances are none of your business. You must curb the urge to ask how much do they earn.


Do you want to have kids?

This is seriously one question not to ask on first date. It’s the first meeting of you together. Asking them serious questions right from the start might sound intrusive. This is the time to know each other. You are not even sure whether you two are meeting again. So take things on a lighter note. Give each other some space and never try to intrude. There is a time for everything. Until you know the person well, you would want to keep the question to yourself.


Why did your last relationship end?

It is too soon to ask about previous relationships and might seem rude too. It’s your first date still and none of your business to know the details of their ex or breakup. Why does it interest you to ask about their breakup? You are not even sure where you both are heading at this moment. So it’s not the best time to poke your nose into their personal life.


What’s your relationship with parents?

This is too personal a question to ask on a first date. More often than not, it can stir their emotions as well, especially if they have strained relationship with parents. Or if their parents are separated or divorced, they might not be too happy to answer your question. In fact, they may not have expected to answer such personal queries on a first date.


How can you work in such a job?

On your first date, you do not want to be judgmental, right? It’s not the right time to be judging someone on the basis of their job, clothes, or food choices. When you try to belittle your date’s choices, they may not take it lightly.


Do you always drink that much?

You do not want to sound as a loser on your first date, right? So restrict the urge to gauge your date on the basis of their preferences or tastes. You are seeing each other for the first time. It’s an opportunity to know each other. Forget everything else.


Are you having fun?

Your date’s body language can give you a clear idea as to whether they are having a great time or getting bored. Instead of putting up the wrong question on a first date, do something to cheer them up.  Remember, you don’t know about their behind-the-scenes story. So you do not want to end up hurting them in any way. Just make them feel comfortable. That’s it. It might set the stage for the next meet.


Questions not to ask on first date should not strike your mind in any way. Else, you might ruin your date and never ever meet each other again.

 

 


Rav




Is honesty the best policy while dating someone? How honest should you be on a first date? Well, honesty matters even if it is your first date. You never know it might be the beginning of a lasting relationship. Honesty lays the foundation of a long-lasting bond. But that’s not how most people think on a first date and choose to be fake. Is it the right way to approach a date? Should you be honest in dating? To answer this question, you need to ask yourself three questions that would give you the right direction.


What do you want from the date:

·         A real relationship

·         Something casual

·         Just time-pass


Reasons To Be Honest 


Show of Strength and Character

True, you might feel a little awkward dating someone for the first time, but you want to be your best version so you can go smooth and easy in the relationship. When you try to be honest on a date, it is a courageous thing to do. It is important to go layer by layer when you are trying to build a relationship. Honesty might just be the foundation you need to build that infrastructure.


Be Selective

Being honest about what you want in a relationship opens you up. But it could make you equally vulnerable too. So you want to be selective in opening up about yourself and creating an environment of trust. This should help your date feel equally comfortable to reveal something of importance. There are questions that you want answers to. Being honest might be the key to convince the other side to unravel those secrets.


Advocate What You Want

If you are looking to enter into a serious relationship, then it might help to be honest on a first date. Do not hesitate to ask what kind of relationship they seek. Speak up about your intentions and kick-start an important discussion.

This is one way to take control of your love life. Not to mention, this will set the stage for an open communication.


No Room for Future Awkwardness

When you start being honest on a date, you are revealing your true self. Keeping secrets on a first date could never give you the confidence to reveal it later. So it might help to be honest right at the start.  In fact, your honest approach might just be the confidence the other person needs to open up. When both are honest, there might be less time wastage and heartburn in the future.


However, the first date is also an opportunity to understand rather than commit to each other. If you both have a fun time with each other on the first date, chances are you have good chemistry. There is hope in the relationship. When both are honest, you know where your relationship is heading.


Bottom Line

Being real with someone will not hurt you nor should it offend the other person. After all, you both are dating each other for a goal – either to enter into a lasting relationship or just to have some fun time. When you are honest about yourself and expect the same from your date, then this makes things clear for both sides whether you are compatible with each other. If not, then you are dating the wrong person.


Unless you are being real, you are not doing yourself a justice by concealing your true self. Imagine who is blocking your way in finding what you are looking for!

 

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