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No, you do not want to be unfair to your date, but there are certain dating dealbrearkers that might end your relationship even before beginning. Many new relationships are doomed right at the start because of certain dealbreakers, which could be a trait, habit, or personality that distracts you or you just cannot accept and compromise on. Now it could be something that you cannot expect to see in a romantic partner.

9 Common Dating Dealbreakers

1.      1. Boring

If a person is boring and has no life dreams, hobbies, or passions, you could see it as a dealbreaker. This could break their relationship with the person they are trying to date who could see them as boring.

2.      2. Bad manners

Well, you want your date to have good traits. But if they are rude and have a bag full of bad manners, you might not want to continue with them. In fact, behavior and personal traits can make or break a relationship. One such bad trait is cigarette smoking. Many people are plain unhappy sitting or dating with someone who smokes. The reason could be awful breath, bad teeth, ruined personality and /or looks, and poor health. Substance abuse could be a dating dealbreaker for many.

3.      3. Unwilling to change

Some people consider the other person’s unwillingness to change as a dealbreaker. Especially if the person is not keen to change for personal growth. This is especially true if they are stuck in a job but still do not want to learn and unlearn and/or expand their knowledge or hone their skills to do better in life. Many people see their partner in those who are open to change and not enslaved to their routine. Enjoying and accepting new experiences can help you avoid this dating blunder.

4.      4. Social media obsession

People obsessed with social media can ruin their relationship easily. Ignoring someone’s presence for social media is a dealbreaker that you want to avoid. This comes to be seen as insulting the other person.

5.     5.  Lack of respect for self-image or health

Not caring about your health or showing utter disregard for self is a deal breaker for some people. So it might help to be mindful about your health and show interest in maintaining your self-image or figure by focusing on a healthy lifestyle.

6.      6. Poor communication

If you're dating someone, you expect the communication to flow. But if the other person fails to communicate properly, is unable to explain their interests, and cannot accept or deny things, that's an ultimate dealbreaker. You cannot know a person without two-way communication where you speak and they listen and vice versa. Asking all the wrong dating questions could also put a full stop to the relationship.

7.     7.  Inconsistency

One of the biggest dating dealbreakers is inconsistency on the part of someone you're dating. If a person is untrustworthy because of inconsistent approach, this is a red signal and won’t take your relationship too far. There is bound to be a lot of friction in such a relationship. When you date someone, there is literally no place for friction.

8.      8. Disrespect for others

If someone you're dating fails to respect and value your morals, you may not be able to take the relationship far. Either tell them how to treat you by setting the standard and sticking to them or call it quits.

9.      9. Unfair expectations

The dating game can be a complex challenge, especially if there are unfair expectations. Asking for too much or expecting too much from a date might not be welcome for the other person. No doubt, this could be an easy dating dealbreaker. Never expect your partner too go above and beyond for you.

A relationship is like a vehicle that requires the fuel of constant communication, understanding, fairness, and respect. Unless you have these traits, you might not succeed in the dating game. Be wary of the dating dealbreakers and blunders in order to be able to take the dating game forward.

 

Now that you have decided to step into the world of dating, are you really prepared for it? Well, there is a lot to consider in the dating world. In fact, there is much more to the dating game than the same old tired dating questions. Let’s explore some uncommon questions for a first date to add an element of fun and excitement. What’s more, it’s an opportunity to know your date more.

What is your favorite memory thus far?

This is going to be an out-of-the-box dating question for your date. But they should enjoy talking about it as many people love to share their favorite childhood memory with someone who is actually interested in listening. No doubt, this can set the stage for a beautiful conversation too.

What was the last book you read?

You love reading, so you want to learn if your date too is interested in books. Asking about the last book they have read is a good way to unravel this. What’s more, if both of you are book lovers, try to recommend a book for seasoned readers that you loved and make an impression.

‍What’s that one thing that you’ve been craving for?

Another uncommon question for a first date is to ask them about something specific that they have always wanted to buy. It could be a specific type of craft or sports equipment or a pair of earrings or food or just about anything.

One question that she would pause and think. This gives you a peep into their interests and priorities.

What is that one thing that you would want to delete from your history?

Now it’s time to turn the clock back on. By asking one out of the box question for a first date, you are giving them something to ponder. There could be a heartburn or a bad episode or a mistake that she wants to forget.

What’s your friend group like – married or single?

Ask them about their friend group. Instead of directly asking about friends, ask if her friends are married or single. This gives you an insight into their friend circle and how much time they spend together. While married ones are less likely to frequently go out together, singles will be more open to partying and hanging out often.

What’s your favorite joke?

While not everyone is skilled at cracking jokes, but we all have some jokes in our kitty that we love to crack when we feel comfortable about a situation. Now is the time to make them feel comfortable in your company and ask about their favorite joke. Who knows this joke might be a memory to remember for a lifetime even if you part ways?

What’s the single piece of advice you want to give someone?

What are your life’s values? No, you cannot ask them directly about their values. But one way to learn a bit about their values is to ask them about one piece of advice they want to give others. Or in other words, ask them what is important in their life.

It’s an opportunity to learn something about them.

Do you love social interactions?

You want to know whether your date is an introvert or extrovert. Now you cannot ask this directly. But there is a way out to learn about her social side. So one uncommon question for a first date will be to ask them about their love for social interactions.

What did you do on last holiday?

Learn about how she likes to spend her time. What are her plans for the next holidays? This gives you an idea about her likes and dislikes. Remember her answers. If things go well between both, you can ride confidently on the life’s journey together and reinforce your relationship.

Sometimes out-of-the-box questions for a first date can bring a smile on your date’s face and give them an idea about your personality. The type of questions you ask will decide your personality traits. Their answer to your questions give you a good idea about them.

So this is a win-win for both sides, and you can decide whether to go forward or choose separate ways.